Honestly, I came up with the idea for writing this topic just thinking about my life & how I'm dealing with relationships. Yes, I am single! Since I can't truly give you a blog about relationships because I've been in too many failed ones, I thought maybe I can tell you the positive side of the spectrum of being heartbroken. Yup, heartbroken after a break up whether it went good or bad!

Sometimes your heart gets ripped in two, feel that pain... Well not necessarily ripped but majority of the pain is felt emotionally! Time after time you get into relationships, things go great, and then boom things are over before they began... I totally feel your pain but I can only write my positives from my experience in love! I can say that I've been in one real situation and although it ended up with my heart feeling like it got ran over multiple times, there was so many positives about the break up that helped me move on! So this is kinda my open letter (or list) from me to you...

1. Closure, gives you a better spectrum of moving on... When you burn bridges you won't be able to cross them again! So make sure when you are leaving and you think you wanna try to come back, make sure your closure isn't telling them to kick rocks! Leave that open opportunity to be friends... That's one option! Or you can go with the "DANI" option and just completely burn the bridge. When I break up with someone I completely end it, change my numbers/emails/social networks! I change it all, when things end and I know for sure I don't want anything to do with you I am cutting you off with no hesitation... REAL TALK! But with closure the positive with this piece of heartbreak is that you can take a break to fall back and think about why things didn't work out and how you can make changes in the next relationship you are in.

2. Tough love, helps you overcome emotional hurdles... Yes you got hurt, but think about how many more times you will be hurt when you take on relationships in the future! When you are faced with another kick in the gut you will learn how to bounce back even better than before because you've been there and done that time and time before. The strength you gain to help you get over the hurt will protect you from being heartbroken more than you did when you got hurt for the first time, there's your positive point on that part.

3. Learned lessons, you learn them so that you know what will come... This one I can't stress enough how important this positive effect is. Once you know better you do much better! This one sometimes people have to go through so many times to get the point but once you learn your lesson you won't do the same things over again. If you do happen to do it again you do it in caution, in hopes that things will go good and if they don't then you learned your lesson again. Did you get that positive part? You live an you learn to never go through it again, if you do you know what you need to do!

4. Appreciation, thanks that things didn't work out! You ever been with someone and you think to yourself "Why did I even date him/her? What the hell was I thinking?" You can question yourself all day long, but have you ever tried thanking God for that person breaking your heart and ending things!?! Maybe in essence the relationship wasn't healthy for a reason! Now that it's over it's okay to be grateful that things ended the way they did. If anything the person who left you did you a favor. The positive is that they paved the way for your continued happiness, whether you decide to be alone or with someone else.

5. Knowing your worth, realizing that you deserve way better than what you had. Clap, do a cartwheel, pat yourself on the back girl... Guess what the positive part is? You can do way better than that dude who is always cheating on you, the guy who is only with you because he is tolerating you, dude that says he loves you only to keep you around, etc. You deserve someone who is willing to keep you smiling, if they can't keep you happy then why keep them around? Don't settle for anything... No I'm not saying become this gold-digger who doesn't need a man but using him up for all of his money! But check yourself before you give your all in a relationship. Think about why the last relationship didn't work. Think about if you really need to be in a relationship period... Do you, learn your needs, wants, joys, etc and once that "ONE" comes around see if they can fulfill everything your heart desires!

6. Prospective, not only will you take on new relationships but you will take heed to what you didn't have in prospective for your last relationship. Eventually you will want to love all over again, taking several precautions not to make the same mistakes but ultimately the positive in this effect is that you can protect yourself from feeling like love will never be the same. Keep looking forward to greater, let the past stay in the past and move forward with hope for a better outcome.

Heartbreak can totally feel like the end of the world, only if you let your sorrow defeat you. Don't be depressed! If the shoe was on the other foot do you think that the person who caused you all the heartache is crying, not eating and losing sleep over you? Think again. The break up happened for a reason and now the choice to think positive and be happy is all in your hands! Good luck and much success on how you decide to move on from heartbreak. I hope and pray that this article can pave the way to soothe some of your pain.

Thanks again for reading... Until next time!